I do not want children. Before I move on, let that soak in. I do NOT want children.
That being said, I want to point out a few things:
- Not every married couple wants kids. Strange, I know. But I didn't get married with the purpose of starting a family. I got married because I love my husband and want to spend the rest of my life with him. Period.
- I don't hate children. On the contrary - I think most kids are great! I worked in day care when I was younger and was a camp counselor for a number of summers, so I think it's safe to say that I like kids just fine.
- Just because you see me playing with/holding/talking to a child, doesn't mean I've changed my mind. Should I assume that everyone who pets my dog wants one? Because I don't. I just assume they're enjoying my dog because they can. Same thing for me with a child. I'm just enjoying the time with him or her; doesn't mean I'm going to run home and make one of my own.
- Asking a couple when they're going to have kids is just plain rude in my opinion.
- There are many couples like us who don't want them, and whenever I have to answer that question, things get awkward for someone. Every time I hear, "You'll change your mind," or "Just wait until you're older," I want to punch someone in the nose. How the hell do you know what future Erika is about? I don't even know for sure what future Erika wants! And I'm Erika!!
- Also, how do you know that a couple hasn't been trying for kids? Just because they don't have them yet doesn't mean they don't want them. No matter what the situation, someone could come away feeling hurt, confused, angry, sad, etc. There's no need for that.
- Whether you like it or not, my dog is, effectively, my child. She is my baby girl and I love her with all my heart. So what if she hates baths, pees on the carpet, and chews on things she shouldn't? Kids do the same, and much worse! (Besides, if my dog ever gets away, I can post fliers to get help finding her. Try that with a missing kid... I'm sure that'll end well. "Lost: One small child. Blond hair, green eyes, answers to 'Martha', Call if found.")